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Advice: “My Boyfriends Parents Hate My Guts!”

17 Sep

A little advice on a Monday morning…

Dear Molly,

I have been dating my boyfriend for 7 years and we have been living together for 3 years. His parents HATE ME! Ok, maybe to not that extent, but they do not care to get to know me or have a relationship with me. All because…I’m not of the same religion! This is ridiculous, I know. And not only that but they have never come to our place before. They have never even done a drive by (that I know of) And my parents adore my boyfriend, they invite us over all the time, and they have taken him alongside for family trips for years. We do plan on getting married one day, and I know his parents either won’t show/try to stop the wedding. I already accepted the fact that they don’t want a relationship with me. What do I do? Oh and by the way, I’m not converting.

Sincerely,

My Boyfriends Parents Hate My Guts for No Good Reason

Dear MBPHMGFNGR,

Unless you’re a Scientologist or a non Muslim who mocks Muhammad, I say your boyfriends parents are ridiculous and flat out wrong. Unfortunately, they sound like they are old school, and there is probably not much you can do to change their minds. Their loss. I’m going to assume since you’re already planning on getting married someday, that your boyfriend already tried to talk to his parents about this (unless you are planning to get married in your mind and he doesn’t know it yet – I planned to marry my boyfriend in my mind before we even dated, and I’ve had an account on TheKnot.com since last year because my motto is ‘Psycho is as psycho does’, not sure what that even means as I just made it up right now, but at least I can admit that I’m a psycho stalker, so anyone judging me can fuck right off. Just kidding, kind of). ANWYAYS, your boyfriend’s parents sound like religious idiots. If there’s one thing I can’t stand is religious nuts who won’t accept anyone who practices any religion other than their own. The bible and Tupac said that only God can judge us, so like, what is up with the hypocrisy? It’s silly. But it’s the reality of it and I’m sure in their mind that you’re just some harlot who is trying to damn their precious son to hell. I don’t think you are, I think you sound like a completely rational biatch who has her shit together. You’re also smart enough to put sentences together (seriously, I didn’t even have to spell check your email).  Being a smart, rational biatch, I hope you’ve told yourself that it’s their loss that they don’t want to get to know someone as lovely as yourself. I also hope you’ve discussed this religion topic with your boyfriend. Are YOU BOTH  okay with the fact that you are not the same religion? You should be on the same page before marriage. If you are both okay with it, then that’s all that matters. It’s really no one’s  business.

If you feel like it, you could maybe reach out to them and let them know that you would love to have some sort of relationship with them when they are ready. Be respectful without being a doormat (they need to be respectful of you as well). If you’ve already tried this approach, then, OH WELL.  They did this, not you. And if you and your boyfriend have both tried to make good, then the ball is in their court. They’ll need to realize that they are only hurting their relationship with their son, because you are obviously a huge part of his life. Something like this will obviously cause a strain on their relationship with him. I’ve seen a similar situation to this before. My friend’s boyfriend’s parents were religious nuts, hated her etc., she married their son, and with time they eventually got to know her and now love her and life is fabulous for all). Hopefully with time, they will see that you aren’t going anywhere and stop being so psycho. Good luck!

Hope this helps,

Molly

Disclaimer: Sometimes I exaggerate. I didn’t think I  was going to marry my boyfriend before we dated. As a matter of fact, I thought he was a tool before we got together. And I’ve only been on TheKnot.com for like 6 months.

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3 Responses to “Advice: “My Boyfriends Parents Hate My Guts!””

  1. overthinkingmind September 22, 2012 at 7:30 pm #

    Loved this, it is such brilliant advice and I completely agree with you that some people can be old school and it is their loss- essentially they are pushing their own son away by not even attempting to be civil to MBPHMGFNGR! It is their problem that they want to be so close minded but hopefully they will see that MBPHMGFNGR loves their son and he loves her and become more open to their union!

  2. Madi September 24, 2012 at 9:48 pm #

    I would like to hear your full story to use as research for new show that is being casted for Oxygen about couples who don’t get along with their boyfriends/girlfriends parents. 10 minute skype interview is all we need 🙂 madi@theuprisingent.com

  3. Amy August 26, 2013 at 10:05 pm #

    Do your parents always complain about the person you’re dating? Ready to prove your parents wrong and show them how amazing your other half is? VPEtalent is seeking couples aged 18-22 and the parents that don’t see eye to eye with them for a brand new docu-reality show for MTV’s international channels. Contact amy.frank@vpetalent.com with your story to apply.

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